How to check on someone

Someone handed you a Behind You Co. card, or you just want to help a friend. Here is a short, plain-language guide. You do not need the perfect words. You just need to ask, and to listen.

Five steps you can remember

1. Ask directly

"How are you, really?" If you are worried, it is okay to ask plainly: "Are you thinking about suicide?" Asking does not put the idea in someone's head. It tells them they can talk to you.

2. Listen without fixing

Let them talk. You do not need to solve anything. "That sounds really hard. I'm glad you told me" is enough.

3. Help them stay safe

If they are thinking about suicide, stay with them if you can, and help keep dangerous items out of reach.

4. Connect them with help

Call or text 988 together (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, US, 24/7), or text HOME to 741741. If someone is in immediate danger, call 911.

5. Follow up

Text them tomorrow. And the day after. Small check-ins matter more than one big conversation.

This guide is general information, not medical advice. It is based on widely shared suicide prevention guidance such as the #BeThe1To steps. Behind You Co. is a clothing company, not a crisis service.

If you or someone you know is struggling right now: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline, US) or text HOME to 741741 (Crisis Text Line). We are a clothing company, not a crisis service.